Social Advocate

Nov 17 2011

practice makes perfect.

For as long as I can remember I have had a particular view of how life should work, and what sequence things should occur in. Of course I was given constant reminders along the way that this isn’t really the most solid approach, and yet I have found myself still holding on to certain assumptions without recognizing the role they play in feeding my fears and uncertainties about next steps.

To give an example, while I have never considered myself a perfectionist (if I was I would have put much more effort into things and would never have been so happy submitting first drafts every time…), I have realized that I stop myself from making a lot of decisions and doing a lot of things because I have a belief that I need much more experience before I could attempt that, with the ultimate goal to be to get it ‘close to right’ first time. This has consequently resulted in doing a lot of ordinary things, or rather not really putting myself out there to do the ‘extra-ordinary’, feeling comforted by the fact that one day I would -boom!- pull it out of the bag.

Over the last few weeks I have spent time with some of the most promising entrepreneurs in San Francisco and New York - and I can assure you they do not share this philosophy one little bit. And for every time they have tried something they didn’t necessarily have the ‘experience’ for, they have walked away with 10 times more insight than I have gathered sitting in the corner plotting my brilliant future.

I have also always carried this idea that those who ‘blog’ must think they are good at it, and that’s why they feel comfortable shifting from ‘dear diary’ to Tumblr or Wordpress. But again this assumption has been smashed by a growing realisation that the majority of people are doing it to ‘get good’, establishing a regular habit that actually helps them improve over time, rather than waiting to pull it out of the proverbial bag.

At the other end of the spectrum, I have spent time with a friend who doesn’t even feel entitled to share her opinion beyond her social circle, because who is she to take a stance and have an opinion and risk people actually taking what she says as gospel. Seeing this aversion to saying anything at all frightened me just as much as the idea of saying the ‘wrong’ thing.

So somewhere in the middle of these two places is where I am starting from today - just a little bit more comfortable with the idea that sometimes you might look like an idiot and even if you don’t, the majority might still disagree with you. But I have a right to express my thoughts, opinions and knowledge to whomever may be interested, and that having conviction in this is really all that matters, the rest is just learning how to convey it in the best way.

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davidgillespie:

I had the pleasure of spending some time with Rachel Botsman recently, whose book What’s Mine Is Yours comes out soon. Rachel’s approach is one readers of this blog will dig, looking at how the web is taking the notion of a global village and making it a reality via the services springing up that facilitate connection between people in more and more meaningful ways.

The above video does a much better job of explaining it than I do, so check it out (those reading on email should click through to watch, well worth it), follow Rachel on Twitter, and get ready to hear a lot more about the rise of Collaborative Consumption.

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